I just so happen to be surrounded by friends and family who all seem to have smaller frames or body statures than I do. Luckily for me I took after my Dad’s side and inherited his height as well. Otherwise my weight placement would have been different, causing the “thick-o-meter” to run hot If you get my drift. Did I notice the difference? YES, but I never really tripped though. The explanation in my house was/is “You took after yo Daddy side...” and that worked for me! (Saw that as a good thing, I was a Daddy’s Girl)
I met BFF (1) in the 3rd grade, I guess opposites attract because that we are. But, I’ll just focus on the outer appearance for this post. She is small, I’m not, I’m tall she’s not! My assumption was that small people needed to eat and BIG people needed to stop! (LOL @ myself) It wasn’t until I invited her over for my first slumber party did I see that assumption may be wrong! This girl was a savage when it came to food! (She gon’ kill me) I mean she ate ALL the pizza, ALL the cookies, ALL the chips, grapes etc., while I looked on in awe 0_o!!! So did my parents, because when it was time for the next party they asked me if she was coming so that they can prepare! LMBO I mean I really didn’t get it she ate more than me but gained absolutely nothing! I didn’t understand, but I didn’t try to either. I just accepted the fact that we are different, I can’t do what she does and she has room to be greedy. Never did I say this B**** makes me sick! Skinny B****** are EVIL!!! Nor did I become the “Envious” BIG girl who felt the need to comment about every skinny girl who walked by, walked in, or got up! ß------- SHE is just annoying!!! These women look in the mirror presumably every day and I’m sure that they are aware of their size! So why won't you do what you can to OWN the room! #check (This is one of my pet peeves)
People would look at her and say things like “You need to EAT...” *with a scrunched up face* “Why you so skinny….”, “Wit you lil bitty self...” Things that I never thought affected her, until she brought it up one day. Her question was why is it ok to call skinny people skinny but not fat people fat?? My Response: maybe because being skinny is not a bad thing. Then I thought, but it IS a CRIME to be too skinny in the black community. LOL I had no answers for her question but what I can say is she can’t help how her body processes food! Neither can I nor the other skinny minis in the world! Eating wise, the girl should be bigger than me! But that is not the case so… What now? Develop a plan: I work out 4-5 times a week, I am mindful of what I eat , I limit my GREEDY sessions, and more importantly I realize that because I am not able to do what she does, she is not EVIL!
I really think Monique may have gotten it wrong here, especially since she has dropped more than a few LBS herself. I know she was trying to promote BIG self love, but making the “Skinny woman” the enemy seems to divert the attention from what I feel is the real problem! Let’s just be honest big does not = healthy. It equals high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, clogged arteries etc! Now how can we blame the skinny woman for all that??? How can I be upset with her because her metabolism works faster than mine?? It’s just plain genetics!! Fair… maybe not but neither is favor! If you're still mad, GET EVEN! But be comfortable in your own skin and confident enough to make changes!